Wed, 7 December 2016
When we feel threatened or in danger, an old part of our brains, the one that regulates emotions, hijacks our executive functioning. We say and do things we regret. In the workplace, this can have serious consequences. This month’s Executive Coaching Tip has seven strategies for stopping yourself from getting hijacked.
The seven lessons in my conversation with my client, Kimberly, are:
If you want to work on combatting your emotional hijacks. other episodes you can listen to are:
The entire archive is available to you for free at:
Wed, 2 November 2016
This episode addresses three issues that arise when you’re facing an executive team. First, what meaning are you making about the event itself? Is that meaning helping you or not helping you? If it’s not helping you, change it.
Wed, 5 October 2016
You can’t be an effective leader if you are not able to have hard conversations that are successful. “Successful” means addressing tough topics in a way that will create change.
One crucial skill to make hard conversations successful is attending to how things are being said. Without an awareness of the ‘how,’ things won’t be as safe as they could be. And if things aren’t safe, they won’t go deep. And if they don’t go deep, they probably won’t stick.
Five other episodes that relate to these skills are:
If you want to dig even deeper into this topic, two books to read are:
“Difficult Conversations” from The Harvard Negotiation Project. The authors are Stone, Patton and Heen.
And from the folks at VitalSmarts is “Crucial Conversations.” The authors are Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler.
Both books are great. Lots of scripts. Lots of insights. Lots of tools.
Wed, 7 September 2016
Conflict on teams is a good thing. Really! Well, it's good if it’s healthy.
This month, two techniques to help team members engage in healthy conflict: arguing about what's best for the business and turning hostile non-verbals into dialogue.
Wed, 3 August 2016
Meetings are often viewed as a necessary evil to be endured. But they can be engaging events that build people’s skills and accelerate the work. This month, a recipe for mixing up meeting magic.
There is a four-meeting model discussed in this episode. If you want a graphic illustration of the model, just look at the online version in the archive: http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/ or email me at email@example.com
Wed, 6 July 2016
Fear is natural but insidious. It can carve caverns in the foundations of our confidence, weakening our capacity. This month, a client learns about three kinds of fear and a transformational question that tames fear.
A seminal book to help master fear is "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers.
At the end of this month's episode, Tom tells a story about the amazing reach of podcasts.
Wed, 8 June 2016
Empathy is a crucial component of The Look & Sound of Leadership. Some people have it naturally, others don’t. In either case, it can be developed and learned. This month's episode has lots of ideas about what empathy is, what it isn't, and how you can develop it.
There are lots of resources discussed this month.
A book called "The EQ Edge" by Stein and Book.
A great 3-minute animation by Brene Brown about sympathy versus empathy. It's on the home page of her website: brenebrown.com. Look for the cartoon of a bear and a fox.
Other epsiodes you might listen to are:
Building Emotional Intelligence
Dealing With Emotional Responses
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
You also might go to essentialcomm.com, select "Coaching Tips," then search two subjects in the archive :
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Finally, if you or someone you know is in the middle of a job search, Tom did an interview this month with a wonderful career coach names Alyson Garrido. The interview has lots of helpful tips and tools. You can find it at: LA TalkRadio.com. The show is called "Get Yourself The Job." The show is in their archive for May, 2016.
Be good to the people you're leading. And be good to yourself! Until next month, thanks for listening!
Tue, 17 May 2016
A bonus episode!
Tom shares email exchanges he had with two podcast listeners. One exchange is about handling people who interrupt presentations. The other is about defining tasks and responsibilities when they're not defined for you.
During the podcast, Tom mentions two other episodes that support the ideas here: one episode is “Facilitating Open Dialogue.” The other is “Creating Devoted Followers.”
If you’d like more bonus episodes like this one, let Tom know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Wed, 4 May 2016
How you brand yourself sticks with people a long time.Thismonth, a senior executive dreads having to brand himself duringaninterview – until he learns about the PersonalHistoriestechnique.
In addition to giving you this simple yet powerful tool tohelpbuild your personal brand, this episode also references abookcalled "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team."
Details about this book is at the end of the podcast. ThereIdiscuss that there are actually TWO books about theFiveDysfunctions. They're quite different. Here’s how.
"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable" has ajuicystory about a team struggling to succeed. In the back of thebook,the author teaches The Five Dysfunctions and explains atarelatively high level how to overcome them. The tools in thisbook– including an assessment your team can fill out – areuseful.
If you’d like to know how to build a high-performing team,thesecond book is even more useful. It’s called, "Overcoming TheFiveDysfunctions of a Team: A Field Guide for Leaders, ManagersandFacilitators." This book has detailed, step-by-step instructionstoguide to and your team to high achievement.
Wed, 6 April 2016
This month, The Look & Sound of Leadership gives you a tool for developing your team. A process that takes only minutes to learn, if practiced regularly, this exercise has far-reaching ripples. Welcome to "The Plus/Delta Tool."
Other episodes to help you develop as a leader of teams are: